Do Dogs and Cats Grieve? Helping the Pet Left Behind
Many dogs and cats change their behaviour after a companion dies: they eat less, search the house, sleep more or follow you closely. Keep their routine steady, give them company, and see a vet if they stop eating.
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What you may notice
- Looking or waiting in the other pet's usual places.
- Less appetite and less interest in play.
- More sleep, or restlessness at night.
- Clinging to you, or wanting to be alone.
- More barking, howling or meowing.
What helps
- Keep meals, walks and bedtime at the usual hours.
- Add a little extra of what they like: a longer walk, a play session, a food puzzle.
- Leave the other pet's bed and blanket in place for a week or two; remove them gradually.
- Reward calm behaviour, and avoid fussing over anxious behaviour in a way that rewards it.
When to call the vet
A cat that has not eaten for more than a day needs a vet promptly, because cats can develop serious liver problems when they stop eating. For a dog, call if appetite is poor for more than two days, or sooner if there is vomiting, diarrhoea or lethargy. Illness can look like grief, especially in an older pet who has lost a companion of the same age.
About a new companion
Do not bring in a new animal for the pet's sake during the first weeks. Wait until your surviving pet's behaviour has settled and you want another animal yourself.
This guide is general information, not veterinary, legal or mental-health advice.